This is Professor PrincessRaji (Instagram & tweet a girl, geez!) Class is in session, thank you very much. WAIT!!! Did you read the first post in my series? If you didn’t click here, and pretend you did anyway.
ANYWAY Here we are again with WHY DATING SUCKS PT. 2 – now say you do manage to meet someone amazing at the local Starbucks..
Let’s set the scene a bit: You’re ordering a grande vanilla chai latte hold the foam, extra pumps of vanilla, and you see this ridiculously amazing looking dude guy checking you out. First thought? Shit, do I have toilet paper on my foot? Is my hair a mess? IS HE STARING AT MY MESSY HAIR? Whoa.. why is he walking over to me? OMG, DID I FORGET TO WEAR PANTS – AM I DREAMI- IS THIS A DREAM. WAKE UP. WAAAAKE UPPPPP. And all of a sudden he says..
Hi, I’m Jeff. Do you come here often? I’ve seen you around and would love to get to know you better. (then obviously Shah Rukh Khan pops up out of nowhere and you all break out into song and dance, yea yea yea stay with me)
FAST FORWARD, you now have a date set with Jeff on Friday. You’re going to Benihana’s, which is your favorite restaurant (fine, it’s MY favorite restaurant, but it should be yours as well) – and you are officially freaking out. Welcome to the second reason dating sucks:
REASON # 2: I DON’T KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT THIS PERSON! AND I CAN’T STALK HIM/HER ON FB & LINKEDIN PRIOR TO OUR FIRST DATE!!!!
Aright look. Before you roll your eyes at me and call me old-fashioned, I GET IT – we date so we can get to know the other person better, and we date so that we can learn integral things about one another. However, you have standards. You want to have some fundamental things covered. Call me old-school, but it’s true!
Things We Care About In The Dating World (Broken Down In VERY, VERY, Simple Logic):
1) The Simple Things
These are things such as where does Jeff live? Does he live down the street? Is he from LA and open to long distance relationships? How old is Jeff? What’s Jeff’s last name? Will my name sound cute as Mrs. Jeff Lastname? Really ridiculously easy and simple things. This is akin to the good ole days of AOL “A/S/L” (Fist Pump to all my homies who used to chat in Romance India – what it do). These are the nitty gritty basics that you usually like to know off the bat, and hopefully have found out prior to accepting a date.
2) The Things We Pretend Don’t Matter
Career doesn’t matter. Yes, I can be happy with a girl even if she works at Happ-E Endings off of Broadway St in SF. She’s a dancer, an expressive, entertainer.
Education/Intelligence doesn’t matter. :: Incoming Text :: HAYYYY BAYBIE CaN’t weight 4u2 cum home2MEEEH 2night. Hugzz n Henny <3 1luv.
I could go on for days. Point is, we all work hard so that we can play hard. You want someone who fits into your desired basic standards these days. Are you looking for a sugar mama? No, but a woman who has her own thriving career brings that much more to the table. Point being, we all have a mental checklist of what we want from another in terms of career and education, what that bar is – is probably different to various people, but it exists and the best part about is it, we all deserve to have these expectations met.
3) The Things We Pray For
Look. I want to marry Ranbir Kapoor. I want to marry Drake. Not sure in what order, but I want to marry them. I’m ridiculously attracted to them. Attraction matters, even though we all feel superficial saying so. The beauty of attraction is that it doesn’t stem from only looks – you can be attracted to Drakes singing like me, and swoon whenever he does his little wave hand dance.
We want our significant other to be kind, to be loving, to be generous, to be protective, to be loyal, and to always make us feel comfortable and loved, and of course to have some major long-lasting attraction. This list will come in due time – it is cultivated after getting to know the other person at length.
If you missed it last week, here’s the first post of my “Why Dating Sucks” series! See ya next week for reason #3!
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