(Cue: Themetrack from Psycho. )
So let’s dive right into it, shall we?
I’ve never heard anyone say “Man, this dating thing is really amazing! I’m having the time of my life dating, there are SO MANY FISH IN THE SEA, you’d think I’m at Waterworld 24-7.” And well, the reason for this is quite simple, as I said in my instagram video, dating sucks. It’s not the easiest thing to embark on, it’s anxiety inducing, and as a wise woman once said “Ain’t nobody got time for that“. Each week for the next 5, I’ll be exploring why dating sucks!
Reason # 1: WHERE DO YOU FIND PEOPLE TO DATE ANYWAY???
Okay, so really – where do you find people to date? A common complaint I hear all the time, “Man Raji, introduce me to some girls!” or “Raji, all the good guys got girlfriends in college, where do I go to find a nice guy”.
As much as I wish I had a rolodex of available men and women with their biodata in hand, I simply don’t. I even struggle where to direct friends at times on where to meet people. More often than not, we’re meeting people at the following places:
Watering Holes/Bars/Clubs/Lounges/Any place that serves alcohol:
This makes sense. You have a drink in hand, and all of a sudden your inner Megan Fox or Channing Tatum comes out, ready to pounce on someone mildly decent. But then what happens? Sometimes you’ll get to that first date, sometimes you’ll text for a few days and then wonder what happened when you stop hearing from the person again.
College is a prime spot to meet people. Why? Because there are a plethora of (mostly) single people, at a ripe age, where they are learning and experimenting with life. You can literally meet your future ex-girlfriend in every corridor or classroom that you walk into. And what’s more, is that you renew the current pickings yearly with the influx of first year/transfer students/grad students. However, we’re usually too young and stupid to navigate through these relationships maturely, so sometimes this works, and sometimes, not.
Through Mutual Friends:
This is a struggle. My best guy friend (he knows who he is), ALWAYS asks me to hook him up with a girl. And my response is usually “Do I look like Santa Claus??”. Whereas I have no issue introducing my friends to one another, I don’t play cupid. And for a very simple reason: I don’t want to deal with the aftermath should it not work out. This is a decently effective method though, good friends can provide references for new boo’s.
Why weddings, Raji? That’s weird. No it’s not weird, it’s genius! Weddings provide people roughly around the same age, already energized by love (and lots of champagne!). And most of these people will probably come with a personal recommendation of the bride and groom!
All in all, you still have to put in work – and you still have to actively seek people at these establishments, it’s really like taking a shot in the dark. No good things ever do come easy, I agree, however dating shouldn’t be that hard given everyone has the common goal – to find someone they strike a match with, and to find someone to nurture and nourish that flame.
Ready for reason 2? CLICK HERE!
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